Navigating your 20's, Learning to trust yourself in a crazy world.

Your 20s Aren’t Meant to Be Perfect — They’re Meant to Be Yours

Your 20s can feel messy. The experiences that are supposed to be fun and freeing can sometimes feel paralyzed by pressure.

Do you feel like you need to have it all “figured out”? Do you ever feel lost, behind, or like you’re not enough?

Let me remind you: this decade isn’t about having a perfectly curated life. It’s about becoming who you are.

Let’s explore what it looks like to build self-trust, practice compassion, and tune out the noise so you can turn inward.

Are You Noticing Any of These? If So… You’re Totally on Track.

1. Seeing Your Parents Differently, You might be realizing your parents aren’t the superheroes you once thought they were. They’re human—complete with their own strengths, wounds, and life stories. This realization can be both liberating and unsettling.

2. Work and Financial Responsibilities Feel Heavy, Balancing school, work, rent, and “adulting” can feel like a lot, especially while you're still figuring out your path.

3. The Pressure to Succeed Is Constant, Social media makes it look like everyone else is crushing it—new careers, dream vacations, perfect routines. It’s easy to feel like you’re falling behind or not doing enough. That pressure to prove yourself can weigh heavily.

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Our 20's are for becoming....

Many feel behind because of unrealistic timelines, seeing stuff online or many have inherited expectations (e.g., Having a career, partner, purpose, and self-love all by mid 20's). PRESSURE!!

Many people feel behind in their 20s because of unrealistic timelines—whether from family, culture, or the internet. There’s often this unspoken pressure to have your career, your soulmate, your purpose, and your inner peace all sorted out by age 25. That’s so much to carry.

Let me remind you:

• Life isn’t black and white—it’s full of grey areas.

• Hitting potholes is part of the journey.

• You don’t need to “lock in” your life path yet.

• Confusion isn’t failure; it’s part of becoming.

• You’re not behind—you’re exactly where you need to be to learn what’s next.

Ask Yourself:

• What do you care about? Not society. Not your parents.

• What does success mean to you—again, not others?

Self-Trust Starts from the Inside Out

Navigating your 20s means making mistakes, getting back up, and learning to trust yourself in the process.

Self-awareness doesn’t start with just your thoughts—it begins in your body. Your thoughts are not always facts. If you want to understand this more deeply, I’ve included a guided meditation to support you.

Your comfort zone is just your familiar story. You can rewrite it.

Try something new, even if it’s scary. Your intuition will feel calm and grounded. Your inner critic or old patterns? Those usually come with anxiety and tightness. Learn the difference.

Take risks. Reflect often. Embrace failure—it’s inevitable. Every successful person you admire has fallen, gotten back up, and kept going. And Please, Be Kind to Yourself.

Being an adult is hard. It’s a process. You’re going to feel lost or overwhelmed sometimes.

That’s okay. Offer yourself the same compassion you’d give a friend. Journal if that’s your thing. Reflect on what you’ve learned. Set goals that are small and doable—that’s how confidence builds.

You’re doing beautifully. I love watching your generation grow and show up.

Please take pride in your skinned-up knees—they’re proof that you’re moving forward. They deserve a little padding and a lot of love.

One Last Thing… My Favorite Reminder:

Your parents were 20-somethings once too. And they didn’t have it figured out either. Honestly? I don’t think we ever fully do. And that’s kind of the point. How boring would it be if we did?

Sending love,

Marty

***Here is a gift from me to you. Have a listen and enjoy.***